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How do I help my transgender child tell their friends?

Worrying about how to support your transgender child in school or whether they’ll get bullied for coming out is normal for any parent. Liam shares his experience – from the support he got from friends and teachers, to dealing with anti-trans comments.

Liam found that all his friends wanted was more education on what being transgender meant. His story shows how easing friends into the conversation and letting them explore it in their own way can help a trans child when coming out. And most importantly, how having friends and family rally around for support can help when dealing with inappropriate comments or bullying.

Coming out to your friends can feel daunting, but by providing a safe and open space at home for your child, you can help them to express themselves with no judgement.

Is being transgender just a phase for my child?

Learning that your child is transgender can bring up all sorts of feelings like confusion and grief, even fear and denial. Susie, our CEO, explains how important it is to listen to your child and believe them in the here and now – whatever their gender identity may be.

As the parent of a transgender daughter, Susie understands the importance of being open, accepting and supportive – especially when it comes to your trans child being themself. She explains how a variety of toy choices and playing dress up can help a child to explore, wear and do what makes them feel comfortable.

However your child decides to explore their gender identity, try not to focus on what the end result might be. All that matters is that they have your unconditional love and support, every step of the way.

How do I best support my transgender child?

Knowing how to support and advocate for your child when they’ve come out as transgender can feel overwhelming. One of our mums, Sarah, shares her journey – from learning about the trans community to helping her child feel comfortable in school, at the doctor’s and on social media.

Sarah’s story shows how important listening is when it comes to accepting your transgender child. Being patient, talking openly and checking in with them can help you to understand their needs at home and at school, especially if they’re feeling vulnerable or being bullied.

Coming out as trans is a huge step. It takes real courage and bravery. And the most important thing to remember is that you love your child for who they are inside.


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