the Life Media
often blame themselves when their child identifies as the opposite
gender. Many feel isolated and alone, with feelings of loss, guilt
and confusion. Although we dont have any contributors to this page
as yet, we have found a blog that has a video of families in America,
sharing their experiences of how their child's gender variance has
affected them, and talking about the journey they have been on.
overwhelming message in this video is that there is hope, and that
the outcome is not as bad as you think it will be. Especially if
you are only just comng to terms with your child's gender expression,
or your child is struggling socially and personally, the world can
seem a very dark place.
the Life Media debuted the video online that includes members of
PFLAG support groups explaining the difficulties and the joys they
experience of having transgender and gender nonconforming children.
have been given permission to publish the following stories, written
by Laurustina, about her daughters struggles with
her gender identity. They are particularly heart wrenching for anyone
who has dealt with this as a parent. If you want to read more, then
you can also visit her blog at http://laurustina.com/
Drugs and the Loch Ness Monster
Lagerstrom recently made the finals in a writing competition, Notes
and Words, with her essay about her son, Sam. She has kindly given
us permission to publish the story on our website, plus she has
a blog at http://transparenthood.net/
A Mermaids Mum's story so far
Mum sent in an email to give an account of the pain and the struggle
that she has experienced, and in many ways still is. We asked if
we could reproduce it on the website, and thankfully she agreed.
Poem written by the best friend to a Mum with a young gender
Child of my heart
The shining star of your soul fell to earth within my womb
And I nourished you
You emerged into the light, awoke to the wide world
And I cherished you
You opened your wings, began to dance
And I rejoiced in you
You looked to me to help you fly
And I lifted you onto the wings of the wind.
What does the wide world know, that it would bind you to the earth?
Your very self shines clear to me
I will change the world to celebrate your being
And seek all my days to sustain your soul.
from Belinda, Mum of young gender variant son
I walked through
the door knowing things
would never be the same.
This was the start of it all new beginnings
and new name
As each wave
fell to the floor
I looked on giving my child encouragement
yet inside feeling so raw.
Each long hair
that I used to caress
Was chopped off with flippence and ease
not feeling my stress.
it was still my child
looking back at me.
Smiling and Happy and now feeling free!
Who would have
though a haircut could
change things for us all.
Making me feel so sad yet my child stand so tall
Goodbye my daughter,
hello my son
Just a pair of scissors and the deed was done.
The tears are
privately streaming down my face
but I must be positive, look forward.
My child is now in a better place.